This relationship thing is not worth while unless you can confidently say okay i’m not going to get sick of this person in under a years time. When that time is up.. re-evaluate.
Pretty much i don’t believe there is any point in being in a relationship unless you can see it lasting. If you can’t see that then bring out the line, i don’t like you i just think your attractive
People that waste my time just make me rage
And that love thing
2 weeks of someones company doesn’t equal love
I like to think of it as a combination of sticking around even when ‘the shit hits the fan’.. so to speak + a bit of faith + the right timing + that certain ‘woah’ factor that enables you to want someone without restriction.
Not that i like the idea but i have learnt that in most cases you need to work your way through people to figure out not only who you are but what you want, what type of person you want. If you can sit there and say your happy.. good for you but for many i’m sure they will need to work their way through numbers.
But i am open to exceptions.
Now i think WWSWS (What Would Shelly Wu Say) so back to her book i go focusing particularly on Chapter 7: The Atonomy of Bad Relationships
If you want someone who can provide you with a relationship of depth (and duration) you’ve got to be confident in the person you are and in doing to respect yourself. The relationships that accept this confident you will thrive, but the one’s that rely on your negative self image will not.
We reshape our relationships by reshaping ourselves.
The rescuers: Getting involved with troubled partners.
This codependent person who takes responsibiltiy for fulfilling the needs of another does it to feel worthy. Were they go wrong is by taking care of others, he or she believes they will be cared for as well. Those who do this will end up feeling insecure, unappreciated and will be emotionally dry. ‘Rescuing’ someone does not solve their problems it only prolongs the affect.
Goodluck
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